SEX IN THE COUNTRY: Julian Assange Case Attempts to Define Rape

Since we live in a post-post modern era, it’s no wonder that a lot of what’s in the media is about the media. Exhibit A is the hack journalism of Rupert Murdoch’s News Corp.  But also happening now is Julian Assange’s trial in London, which is attempting to determine whether or not the charges being brought against the journo by the government of Sweden constitute alleged criminal behavior. If so, he will be extradited to Sweden to face those charges. The question is whether or not what Assange did with AA & SW (pseudonyms for the accusers) constitutes a crime: in this case, sexual assault and rape.

Women have not been saying much about the charges, maybe because Assange is too hot to handle. Hillary Clinton accused him of treason, but what does she have to say about the rape case?  I’ve been watching and reading some of the coverage, and Assange, who has recently adopted a quieter, more conservative veneer, is not the most appealing guy. He’s even made anti-Semitic comments.

According to court documents, the most serious allegation is that Assange penetrated SW while she was asleep, which constitutes rape in Sweden.  SW had admired Assange, and sought him out at a speaking engagement. It seems that she, like AA, didn’t object to the sex as much as to the lack of a condom, because when SW awoke, she “let him continue.”  The prosecution argues that doesn’t matter because the initial penetration was non-consensual.

In the case of AA, the accuser claims Assange’s foreplay was rough, including ripping her clothes, and that turned her off.  He tried to put it in without a condom, and finally allowed AA to find him one, which he put on.  AA agrees she consented to sex under these circumstances, but just because she wanted to “get it over with.”

Okay, ladies, whaddya think?  I know one thing – this shit happens ALL THE TIME. When I read this I was reminded of my freshman year of college.  My friends and I took ecstasy with my recently ex-boyfriend (incidentally, the guy I lost my virginity to) and his friend.  I ended up falling asleep in his bed and woke up the next morning to him having sex with me.  I let it continue, then I cried.  It sucked – but was it rape?

There have also been MANY TIMES I’ve performed a sexual act to get it over with, usually a blow-job.  When you’re young, men milk the blue balls thing, like they’ll be in pain if you don’t relieve them, i.e., make them come, somehow.  Later, it seems like men pretty much assume that if they buy a girl dinner, she owes him an orgasm. One often feels ambivalent in such situations, because one is ostensibly on a date and trying to be nice, to get to know someone.  It goes something like this:

A man and woman fool around on a bed.  He goes down on her, but it’s brief and she doesn’t love it. She thinks maybe it’s time to wind things up.

Her: Hey, I’ve got to get up early.

Him: (pouts) You want me to leave? Now?

He kisses her.  She likes kissing him, feels guilty for trying to get rid of him when they’re, intimate, naked.

Him: (whispers in her hear) Come on, help me out.

Her: (sighs) Okay.

She evaluates her options – easiest and fastest is probably to give him a blow job.  So she goes down on him, closes her eyes.  And pretty soon, it’s over.

Not the most pleasant encounter, and the woman definitely acts under pressure, but how much pressure constitutes rape? Should woman stop going along with stuff they don’t want to do but are doing just because it’s easier and they don’t want to further jeopardize what might be a budding relationship? I once heard a married woman exhort about sex with her husband, “It’s fifteen minutes, how bad can it be?  And it gets you so much in return.” (In her case that’s true, because she’s married to a very wealthy man.) We all compromise, choose which battles to fight to win our wars.  But maybe we should stop performing sexual acts unless our heart’s really in it.

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2 Responses to SEX IN THE COUNTRY: Julian Assange Case Attempts to Define Rape

  1. Adrian says:

    Chloe, I’m shocked! Someone finally thinking rationally about the situation. This is, of course, a greater conundrum for society as a whole; what is rape and how do we define it?
    Seems to me that many times it’s simply a matter of if the woman is into the guy or not. If you woke up with Brad Pitt on top of you, would your reaction still be the same? Maybe it would, but maybe it depends on the woman.
    Clearly there are instances where rape is clear. But it’s the gray areas which, unfortunately, define what rape is for a broader prosecutorial weapon.

    FYI: I’ve never had sex with a sleeping girlfriend.

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